Getting Your Child to Listen and Follow Directions
Within the classroom, it is important for students to follow directions. This is difficult for some students, though, especially those with learning and attention issues. Here are some tips to help them improve. They can be helpful both to teachers and parents who have these issues with their children.
- Ask for attention
If you see your child isn’t focused, this is a good tactic. Adding to the nonverbal cues that may be missed, say something like, “Look at me, please. I need you to listen.” Being this direct can cut through their lack of focus. Also, moving into the child’s field of vision could make it easier for them. Make sure you have eye contact, and you might even want to consider getting down to the child’s eye level.
- Don’t shout
Frustration can lead you to raise your voice and speak over your child, but volume adds another level of communication that the child needs to process, and may even add tension to the situation. You may have a lot more success if you keep your tone soft and even.
- Tell, don’t ask
Avoid phrasing your directions as a question. Instead of, “Would you attempt this problem, please?” try, “Attempt this problem, please.” This makes it clear that it is an instruction, not a favor.
- Wait time
You may have seen educational TV use this tactic. The animated or stuffed character asks a question, then waits a little for the child to respond. A three- to seven-second pause can help the child process directions or questions. This makes them more likely to respond and gives them time to ask for clarification, if needed. After wait time, you can ask the child to repeat the instructions to be sure they understand.
- Limit distractions
This may be difficult in a classroom setting, but it is something that comes into play as early as the planning stage of classroom design. As much as possible, keep classrooms away from noisy areas, for example. While talking to the child, have them put down whatever they are doing, so you are sure you have their full attention. Model the behavior by giving your full attention as well when giving directions.
- Don’t give too many instructions at once
Especially with younger children, it is a good idea to give directions one at a time. This helps to avoid the child losing focus once one activity is done. Once they are done with one activity, move on to the other.
- Be visual
Along with the spoken directions, use visual cues and gestures to help the child understand. Point out what needs to be done, for example; don’t just say it.
With these tips, you help your child to focus on your directions, and make them more likely to follow them.
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