As parents we all want our children to receive a great report card .Unfortunate the reality is ,that during your child's K-12 years the chances are that your child will receive a few disappointing grades.
It is very important how parents handle bad grades as this will can effect your child's future approach to their education .A bad report card can lead to an emotional situation for both the child and the parents.
Don’t rush -take your time to absorb
Chances are your child will already be aware that the report contains some red flags . Once you have absorbed the news take time to think about it all .It is important not to re act in the moment when emotions may run high.If you are worried ,tell your child that you need to look carefully at it and then you will discuss with them.Be calm and they will be too .
Praise the good aspects
It is important that any discussion begins with praise.Acknowledge the comments about their good behavior and the fact that they received a good grade in Music and Art.Even if its just a good attendance record praise this . It is important that your child understands that you are looking at everything not just the negatives.
Check the grading system
Make sure that you understand the grading system that your child's school uses.Read the key .Sometimes a letter grade is tied into a numerical point system . What might look like a bad grade may not be as bad as first thought.
Talk to your child don’t lose your temper.
It is all right to let your child know that you are disappointed and that you perhaps feel they could have done better.Its important that you can discuss this calmly with your child and seek their viewpoint .You do not want to leave your child humiliated or ashamed .
Listen to your child's point of view
There may be excuses brought up which you feel are invalid ,but listen to them .Its possible that your child may have some insights into why they did badly in a particular subject.Maybe they can’t see the board or maybe they are just too tired from having a hectic after school schedule .Ask your child what they think is the cause .There are many reasons that a child is struggling with poor grades.
Meet and Talk to the Teacher
It is important to meet regularly with your child's teacher.This way you can be aware of their teaching styles and be aware earlier if your child needs some extra help with a subject.
Discuss a realistic game plan with your child to try and improve their grades .Don’t punish poor grades it is better to try and identify the problem areas and work with your child.Be realistic , a child who is obtaining D and C grades is unlikely to be able to get an A for the next report card . Improvement will likely be gradual but praise that improvement.
Your child will be counting on you to help them out . Follow the above points and if need be do not be put off to ask for help from the school. Remember children actually do not want to fail so help them get back on track.